"Face Your Fears: You're In Control"

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Updated: Sep 26, 2021

“Face Your Fears: You’re In Control”

Written by: Jhon Abaga, Admin/Creator - Life Exploration

Date updated: June 30, 2021

Most of the time, life will give us obstacles in different levels in any form. These challenges can be terrible experiences for some of us. Times like those will make us crumble to the ground. There are moments in our lives that will take away our courage—making us live our deepest and darkest fear. Hence, circumstances that bring fear could be created by what you’ve been through or experienced. These fears you have could do such things to you as self-doubt, anxiety, pressure, stress, etc.

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A person who was once exposed to something that made them scared to the next level may think that their fear is scary enough and it is beyond their control. That’s why some are running away from it. There’s nothing to be ashamed of from being scared. It is not how your strength and courage are measured. However, it is far more necessary to learn how to face your fear…how to stop it.

The things you feared and you run from ended owning you— “the more you run from your fears, the more it controls you,” until your moves will be based on what you fear. You won’t be noticing that your courses of action are the product of your avoidance.

You can’t turn your back from your fear forever -you can’t hide your fear underneath your bed or lock it inside your closet for a very long period. Because like any other feelings or things, the more we buried them deep within, it will eventually explode. It will grow until you couldn’t contain it anymore. And if it does, it will be more dreadful to handle. There are things you can’t outrun, and fear is one of those. Sooner or later, it will catch up on you, and you must be ready to face it.

The only way to stop the constant fears is by facing them. Not running from it, burying it, or avoiding it.

Let’s put it this way…Think of yourself as a kid who’s afraid of the monster inside your closet. Behind those doors, there are more monsters inside, but it wasn’t monsters—there wasn’t anything in the closet but fear. You just have to open that door and face it until it disappears.

These fears are the monster inside your closet and underneath your bed, and it will eat you if you let it. Take your courage and take action about it. Instead of looking at your fear as a monster, look at it as a tiny little rabbit, and you are the wolf—this perspective will help you overcome your fear. “Master and transform your fear by facing the things that scare you instead of running from them.”

You may say that facing your fear and overcoming it isn’t easy as it sounds. Yes, it’s easier said than done, but you must take the first step and capture your prey. I believe that each of us already has the courage to do so despite the self-doubt you have—you already have the power of courage to make it through your greatest fears. You just need to take your courage and shine its light right through your fears—little by little, Smallest to biggest. Be easy on it, don’t push yourself too hard at first. Conquer your fear one by one; easy to difficult, simple to complex, small to big until it scares you no more.

Believe in yourself, in your abilities, and your spirit. Learn to trust yourself—it will lead you back to your courage to face your deepest and darkest fears. Avoidance is never the key to fix everything you are anxious about. You can never solve your fear or the things that cause your agitation by avoiding it. It is never a solution. Do not run from it. Run through it. Eventually, it will be better, and your courage will grow to face the difficult ones.

“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he, who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.”